Think about a basketball coach; when his team loses, he takes responsibility for the loss even though he wasn't actually playing in the game. He does this because he is the leader, and to be an effective leader, you have to take responsibility and set an example. Like they say in the movie Spider-Man, "With great power comes great responsibility." You'll never have success or power if you don't take responsibility for things.
Consider the interpersonal relationships in your life. These are relationships with neighbors, friends, loved ones, co-workers or anyone else with whom you share something in common. We have breakups and a variety of disagreements with people. Even in the most obvious situations where you may not have any responsibility for something that may have gone wrong, take responsibility. This is a character trait of world-class performers. Relationships are all 50/50, so without at least two people involved, a relationship wouldn't exist. As long as you were associated with something, then you had some influence over the situation. Not accepting responsibility for things robs you of the opportunity to learn and grow as a person.
If you think about an X partner and consider the reasons why you broke up, such as she was too jealous. If you just accept it as a fact that the other person deserves 100% of the blame, then you’re always going to find fault in other people and never look at yourself. Instead, you should self-analyze the situation and say to yourself: “OK she was jealous, but I wasn’t at home very much. On top of that, I worked with a lot of attractive women, and I had lunch with them every day.” Maybe, if you try to go out with this person again or with your next girlfriend, you should try to see things from her point of view. Try to understand the situation better rather than just dismiss it as her fault. Dismissing everything as someone else’s fault will weaken you.
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